aviar Kaspia, perched on the second floor of a Haussmannian building overlooking the Place de la Madeleine in the 8th arrondissement, in the chicest of Parisian neighborhoods, has somehow defied the odds by being one of the coolest hangouts this side of the Seine for close to a hundred years. Virtually every important name in fashionāYves Saint Laurent, John Galliano, Tom Ford, the list is endlessāāhas been a regular at one time or another. The cult eatery is a favorite haunt of Rihannaās too, and itās been three years since she was last in town. Sheās in the mood for restaurant hoppingāitās Friday night of Fashion Week, after all, practically New Yearās Eveāand Caviar Kaspia is her last and most important stop.
When I show up for our planned rendezvous, close to midnight, the place is buzzing. The room has all the charm of an intimate 1920s salon, though right now many of its Old World trappingsāglass cabinets filled with 19th-century silverware and Limoges porcelaināhave been transformed thanks to a two-week-long takeover by Off-White. As a tribute to the brandās late founder,Ā Virgil Abloh, who was a regular here too, a blue neon sign with the words āimaginary dinnerā hangs over the bar, complete with the designerās trademark quotation marks. Even the waiter uniforms have been replaced with sleek Off-White lab coats and Nike sneakers.
I scan the room for signs of a celebrity entourage. Anitta, the Brazilian pop star, is holding court by the impressively draped windows, flitting from table to table in a crystal-āāstudded mini. By the looks of it, Rihanna and her crew have yet to arriveābecause when has timekeeping ever been her strong suit? Then I notice the host is beckoning me from the far side of the restaurant. Turns outĀ RihannaĀ is already here, ensconced in a corner by herself, waiting.
āI know the skirt is Junya, but girl, can I ask who makes that denim jacket?ā she says as I approach her table. Nothing escapes Rihannaās exacting eye, especially not when it comes to fashion. I tell her itās Junya too, an archive piece from an earlier collection that I recently scored on The RealReal. āItās good,ā she says, nodding approvingly. Sheās curled up on the banquette in an oversized khaki parka with a slinky turquoise catsuit beneath, a look I recognize from Stella McCartneyās last show. Her shoe of choice? A four-inch stiletto heel. Like all the best moments in her style repertoire, the outfit is a study in oppositesāsexy, cool, sophisticatedāand worn with her characteristic ease. In fact, for a very brief moment, with her hair swept away from her face in a loose bun, subtly glossed lips, and a dusting of gold makeup, I almost miss the baby bump. āAs much as itās happening, itās also not happening,ā she says, patting her belly, only partially visible above the table. āSometimes Iāll walk past my reflection and be like,Ā Oh shit!ā
We settle in and she persuades me to order the houseās famous dish: baked potato topped with caviar, an indulgence she enjoyed before she was pregnant. Sheās already had a bite to eat, but I came hungry. These days, she says, her cravings tend more sweet than salty. āI usually hate desserts, but all of a sudden you come close to me with a chocolate-ācovered donut and youāve got my heart forever,ā she says, giggling. Tangerines are a thing too. She eats them by the dozen, sprinkled with salt.Ā Yes, salt.Ā āIt has to be with salt and only with salt, because in Barbados we take our fruits to the ocean and soak them,ā she insists. āTrust me, it really isĀ a thing.ā
Itās obvious how happy she is to be here right nowāhow much sheās loving the simple fact of being out in the world. Since she and her partner A$AP Rocky, 33,Ā announcedĀ they were expecting in late January, the 34-year-old superstar has embraced her time as a mom-to-be with an irrepressible joie de vivre. āI think I even say yes to more now because IĀ know it will be different on the other side of this,ā she tells me. āAt first I expected some magical change, but really I remain who I am.ā In other words, ānone of the dials are turnedĀ down.ā
Over the last two weeks, sheās changed something profound in fashionāsingle-handedly rewriting the rules of pregnancy dressing with one jaw-dropping style maneuver after another. She made her grand entrance to fashion month at Gucci in Milan with Rocky at her side, sweeping onto the front row bump-forward in a lace-and-latex crop top, low-slung satin pants embroidered with a dragon motif, and a metallic headpiece that recalled an Egyptian queen. (Onlookers wondered if the sizable Gucci trunk her rapper boyfriend was carrying might actually be the coupleās hospital bag.) She ramped things up again in Paris, gliding into the Off-White show dressed in the brandās baby pink leatherĀ minidress, heeled sandals laced up to the knee, and a dramatic floor-sweeping shearling coat seen on the runway at Diesel less than 72 hours earlier.
Arguably the peak of her rule-ābreaking maternity style thus far, though, has been theĀ little black dressĀ she wore to Dior. Sometime before the show, Rihanna and her stylistĀ Jahleel WeaverĀ made the decision to remove the lining of the lace Dior cocktail frock, leaving it completely transparent. āRihanna is just so fearless, so for me itās always a question of āHow do we make this look make sense for who she is?āāā says Weaver. Suddenly what had essentially been all sweetness and light becomes a far more risquĆ© fashion proposition. āTo me that dress is actually the closest thing to maternity clothes that Iāve worn so far,ā Rihanna insists. āAnd we hadnāt really done lady that whole time. So I was like, Letās do lady!ā (Naturally, Rihannaās idea of āladyā includes little more than jewel-āencrusted belly chains and a strappy G-string from her Savage X Fenty line. āListen,ā she deadpans, āthey were going to see my panties regardless. So theyād better be mine.ā)
Needless to say, the internet had thoughts. Her critics labeled it indecent.Ā How dare she be this naked and this pregnant?Ā The vast majority, however, greeted the moment with aĀ collective cheer. Here was a beautiful woman at her most abundant, sexy, and strong, delighting in the creative play of getting dressedāwith or without a baby bump. For Black expectant mothers in particular, it stood as an awe-inspiring act of defiance. At a time when the joy of bringing a child into the world has too often been overshadowed by one geopolitical crisis after another, her unbridled feminine power was nothing short of life-affirming.
For Rihanna, now in her third trimester of pregnancy, fusty notions of maternity wear were an easy target. āWhen I found out I was pregnant, I thought to myself, Thereās no way Iām going to go shopping in no maternity aisle. Iām sorryāitās too much fun to get dressed up. Iām not going to let that part disappear because my body is changing.ā When I bring up the subject of maternity jeans, she rolls her eyes: If itās not something she would have worn before she was pregnant, then itās not something sheās going to wear now. To be sure, working outside the traditional bounds of pregnancy style comes with its fair share of challengesājust ask her stylist. āI know he loses sleep over it because my measurements can literally change from hour to hour,ā she says. āIn fact Iām sure heās going to ask for a raise after this!ā
As the body changes, so does the style: Midriff-baring looks she might have thought twice about wearing before her pregnancy have become a perfect fit for her new bump-forward style. This is a point she hopes will empower other expectant moms. āIām hoping that we were able to redefine whatās considered ādecentā for pregnant women,ā she tells me. āMy body is doing incredible things right now, and Iām not going to be ashamed of that. This time should feel celebratory. Because why should you be hiding your pregnancy?ā
If thereās one person on the planet who can match the risks she takes with fashion, itās Rocky. āLike iron sharpening iron,ā is how Rihanna describes their style rapport. (The rapper, who was friends with Rihanna for years before they were romantically linked, described her inĀ GQĀ last MayĀ as āthe love of my life. I think when you know, you know.ā) More than just a pregnancy reveal, the images of them strolling hand in hand through snow-covered streets in Harlemāher in a bubblegum pink vintage Chanel puffer and ripped jeans, him in a denim Carhartt jacket and leather pantsāwere a tender public declaration of their union. In one particularly heart-melting photo, he kisses her gently on the forehead as snowflakes settle in her hair. This was not the sort of highly orchestrated Hollywood photo op weāve become accustomed to. It felt real, a reprieve from a bleak midwinter news cycle, and more than just a gift to the legions of fans whoād been willing their unborn baby into existence. Suddenly, the whole world was happy for them.
But none of this was smooth for Rihanna. āPeople donāt get out of the friend zone very easily with me,ā she says. āAnd I certainly took a while to get over how much I know him and how much he knows me, because we also know how much trouble we can land each other in.ā Some of us will recall exactly what kind of trouble she means, starting with their first encounter at the VMAs in 2012 when Rocky joined Rihanna for a performance of her hit single āCockiness.ā Midway through the performance, as they were dancing side by side, Rocky pulled a surprisingly cavalier move. āHe grabbed my ass on stage. That was not part of the rehearsal!ā she says. āI was like,Ā WhatĀ are you doing!?ā Her team braced themselves for an upset Rihanna. Instead, she let it go. āMy manager was like, Oh, God, she must like this guy a little bit. She never lets this shit slide.ā
Gradually, Rihanna let her guard down, and things became serious when the world went into COVID lockdown. āHe became my family in that time,ā she says. Part of it was an epic road trip they took in summer 2020 from Los Angeles to New York. Meandering across the country on a big tour bus, they were able to get away from the glare of the public eye. Theyād park and Rihanna would grill barefoot while Rocky tie-dyed T-shirts picked up at the gas station. āI cooked our food on this little janky grill I bought from Walmart,ā she remembers. āI still have it, too. It works like nobodyās business.ā No matter where they stopped, they always had fun. āI love the simple things but also the grand adventures,ā she says. āThereās no pretentious my-brand-your-brand bullshit, itās just us living,ā she says of their existence together. āI just feel like I can do any part of life by his side.ā
By the time the holidays rolled around, she was ready to bring him home. Barbados had been closed to visitors for much of that year, and Rihanna was dying to see her family. Now she knew sheād have company. āIt was us who were going home,ā she says. āWeĀ were going home.āĀ Her mom, according to Rihanna, is usually a tough nut to crack, but she warmed to Rocky right away. āMy mother has a really good read on people. She observes first and then sheāll move slowly. I guess Iām like that too,ā she says. āThere are some guys that Iāve dated that she wonāt even look at to this day. But she was charmed by him from the jump.ā
Though he was born and raised in Harlem, Rocky has roots tracing back to Barbados too: His late father emigrated from the Caribbean island.Ā āTo see him in a space where heās imagining his dad as a boy, walking the same streets as his dad walked, eating the same food as his dad ate, it was really heartwarming.ā
I ask Rihanna what she loves most about their relationship. As if on cue, her phone starts to buzz. Itās Rocky on FaceTime. She turns the camera around to give him a view of the scene. āLook, can you see how everything in here has been Virgil-ified?ā They exchangeĀ I love yous before hanging up, their ease and warmth palpable. āWhat I love the most about us? Transparency with everything: how weāre feeling, what our goals are, what our fears and insecurities are. The vulnerability to be able to say what you feel about each other.ā
That journey is unfolding one day at a time. Rihanna had assumed that she would suffer from morning sickness like her mother, but so far so good. The mood swings have, mercifully, also been easier to manage than she had anticipated. āI was bracing myself for something insane because I knew I wouldnāt have my usual coping mechanism: I canāt just go and smoke a joint right now,ā she says. āBut I was pleasantly surprised that Iāve been able to manage.ā Still, there will be times when an innocuous Instagram post will trigger a flood of tears.
When it comes to the actual act of giving birth, Rihanna betrays little apprehension, partly because sheās supported several of her closest female friends and family on their way to motherhood. āShe made time for me when I was having my baby,ā says Sonita Alexander, one of Rihannaās best friends since childhood, a doctor who lives in Barbados. āThe baby was sick, so she came back three weeks later and was supportive the whole time. I would say it was the most important moment in our friendship. Sheās a great auntie.ā Rihanna wishes all of her nearest and dearest could be in the room with her, but with COVID restrictions that seems unlikely. āMaybe Iāll just have a party bus parked outside or something,ā she says, only half joking. After learning about the benefits of breastfeeding, itās something sheās ready to try. āIām praying my body allows me to,ā she says. So what frightens her the most? āPostpartum depression. Will I feel out of control emotionally? Those are the stories I hear from other women that scare me.ā
Thereās also childcare to figure aboutābut right now, she and Rocky canāt think further than the idea of asking her mom and his mom to help, though sheās reluctantly put a night nurse on hold at the urging of friends. āIām sure that will be helpful, but theyāre going to have to fight my mom, because I canāt imagine anyone telling her how to put her grandkid to bed,ā she says. And where in the world does she want to raise the child? āThat gets difficult to say,ā she admits. āRocky asked me recently if I had a dream place, where would it be? I told him home, Barbados. I always imagined it being that way. But realistically it probably wonāt be.ā
Rihanna has never been much for scheduling, so itās fruitless to ask her to predict how sheāll juggle it allāthe multimillion-dollar lingerie and beauty empires, the music career, a young family. Part of her magic is that sheās mercurial. āBalance is one of my biggest challenges and always has been,ā she says. āAnd now thereās another human being coming into play, it changes what that means again. Still, I have businesses that arenāt going to run themselves. My mom handled the three of us with not even close to the amount of resources that I have, so I can absolutely do it. What it looks like? Iām not sure.ā
And that long-awaited record? Making music is still very much part of the program, even if sheās playing her cards very close to her chest. In her mind,Ā AntiĀ still stands as her creative benchmark, āmy best album to this day.ā Released in 2016 and famously snubbed by the Grammys, the genre-busting album was ahead of its timeāand a hard act to follow. Right now though, sheās not trying to be in competition with herself, or anyone else for that matter. āIām looking at my next project completely differently from the way I had wanted to put it out before. I think this way suits me better, a lot better,ā she says. āItās authentic, itāll be fun for me, and it takes a lot of the pressure off.ā
Along with maternity jeans, she has a list of other pregnancy doās and donāts, starting with the baby shower. āNo brunch, no blush tones. And no animal-shaped nothing,ā she says, shaking her head. āI mean itās lit for a lot of peopleāIāve even planned a couple of baby showers like that myselfāitās just not right for me. Personally, I want a party. I want everyone to be plastered and crawling out. And itās got to be co-ed! Donāt put me on no wicker chair somewhere with gifts at my feet where everyone is staring at me.ā A gender-reveal party is off the table too. āI asked my doctor: Is something wrong with me for not wanting this? Because people keep asking me. Am I a bad mom? When weāre ready to tell the world, weāll just tell them.ā
Rihannaās hardly the kind to compose twinning mommy-and-me fit pics on Instagram, but she is looking forward to the prospect of dressing her child. Truth be told, though, she hasnāt bought so much as a pair of baby booties. āIām so behind on everything,ā she says with a sigh. āI havenāt bought anything yet.ā Not even a onesie? Nope. Some toys for the crib perhaps? āNo, Chioma! Youāre not hearing me.Ā Not. A. Single. Thing!ā she says, clapping her hands with each word for emphasis. On that count, Rocky has somewhat of a head start on her. A self-confessed interior design geek, he already has ideas for the nursery. Rihannaās not sure theyāll get much use of it though. She imagines her child will sleep in their bedroom, at least in the beginning.
But letās back up a bit, to the more urgent matter of what the baby will wear. In the immediate futureāas in tomorrow afternoonāthereās a shopping trip planned to Bonpoint and Baby Dior. The one item of baby clothing she does have so far is a mini bathrobe, a gift from her hotel in Paris, an exact replica of the one sheās been lounging around her room in. āIt is legit the tiniest, cutest robe I have ever seen in my whole life,ā she says, beaming. This feels like the right moment to ask her the unthinkable: What if this child, born to the worldās most stylish couple, isnāt into fashion at all? āDonāt say that! You just broke my heart!ā she says, exploding with laughter. āYo! That is the day that I will have a problem, if my child donāt like fashion? What?? Youāve got me so nervous!ā
Itās close to 4 a.m. and the restaurant is all but cleared out. This is not the first time Rihanna and I have stayed up all night chatting in Paris. Several years ago, in a hotel suite at the George V, our conversation was just as candid. With Rihanna, nothingās ever scripted; she moves through the world with an open heart. And as much as sheās a hilarious storyteller, sheās a great listener too.
And right now I have some news of my own to share: Iāve decided Iām going to try for a baby by myself. āOh, thatās so exciting!ā she says, engulfing me in a hug. I confess that going it alone wasnāt the original plan, but somehow it feels right. āYou know itās the same with meāI always thought it would be marriage first, then a baby, but who the fuck says it has to be that way. Iām certainly not gonna let that get in the way of me being a mom,ā she says, then pauses to hold her belly with both hands. āOh, wait! The baby is moving!ā I ask if I can touch the bumpāmaybe some of that fertility goddess energy will rub off on meāand she obliges. Sure enough, the baby throws me an elbow. āOh, that was a light one. You have seen nothing yet,ā she says, chuckling. āItās mostly when I cross my legs or limit their space that theyāre like, Get out of my way quick!ā
If thereās one thing sheās certain of, itās that the little person growing inside of her already has a personality of its own. Above and beyond anything else, sheās looking forward to seeing the world through their eyes. āTheyāre going to teach me more than I could ever teach them. And I want them to go for it. I want to see who they are in the world, who they become,ā she says. āBecause Iām just here to keep them on the railsāa passenger as much as the driver.ā
When itās time to say our goodbyes, I can tell those maternal instincts are already kicking in. As I start to order an Uber, she shoots me a worried look. Sheād prefer to give me a ride home, if thatās okay. āYou know itās just not safe out there at this hour.ā And really, how can I argue with her. Mother knows best.